"I Can Have It All, Jack!"

I love my job. I know there are times when I complain about lack of sleep/the insane amount of stress, but fundamentally, I really do love my job. I have an employer who trusts me and who deeply appreciates all the hard work I do. I work somewhere that values loyalty and team work. Where undercutting people you work with isn't the norm. Anyway, this isn't really a plug for my work, but it's leading up to the point of this post.

The other day it was brought to my attention that finding a good job and being successful isn't every woman's life priority. I suppose I knew that, but most of the woman I surround myself with are rather career oriented. They want to feel like they are contributing to the world in some way through the workplace. They want to be successful and independent. Anyway, the person I was talking to was upset by a friend's decision to ask her fiancee to move to a city with her because she had a good job and she enjoyed it. My response: did he have a job? My friend: Well, no. Me: Then why is that a problem? I would have done it in a heart beat. My friend could not understand why I would be interested in "sacrificing my relationship" for a job.

This leads me to my "Liz Lemon" moment of the day: Can't we have it all? Who's to say that the woman has to give up her job to follow the man? Why is the woman expected to "show her support" by giving up a job? Why I can't long to be fulfilled by my job and by a relationship? Why would it be out of line to ask my fiancee to move for my job? I mean, men have done that for ages and many women have chosen to support their men in these endeavors. I'd like to believe that in this century, both men and women can be supportive of each other's dreams/aspirations and support them in whatever way possible.

In short, I chose to believe that I can have it all. And I hope everyone out there can believe the same.